My boyfriend and I are buying a house together. I love his parents, just as mine love him and everyone gets along very well.
Here is the problem..
The original plan was for my boyfriend to move into a rented three bedroom house with two of his good friends. Then, he decided he was just going to buy a house and rent out two of the rooms to his friends. He asked me to move in with him as well, and I offered to help pay for the mortgage since we could get a larger one this way. His parents are very excited for us to be moving in together.. but it seems maybe a little bit too excited. They are telling us which area of the city to live in, they are telling us what is a good deal and what is not (my dad knows a lot about houses and renovating, he has rebuilt our entire home and offered to do any renovations for us) and they seem like they want my dad to stay out of it..
I appreciate any advice that our parents have to give us, since neither of us have any experience buying a home, but the only problem is we are not really receiving a lot of advice, it feels more like instructions. They are insisting that we go to their bank, when my boyfriend and I already go to the same bank and were hoping to stay with them. They are constantly emailing us listings of houses that we can’t afford. When we tell them that we can’t afford a house that expensive, they suggested that I sell my car so we would have more money each month! (it’s a brand new car, so I am still making payments. I need my car to travel for work, and my boyfriends car is standard, which I do not know how to drive.) They also told us not to rent out to our friends, because we will want our privacy. They are now expecting us to tell our friends they have to find another place to live.
I know this is long, I am just looking for advice on how to politely tell his parents, or get him to tell them, that we appreciate any advice but this is up to us, WE are the ones that have to live in and pay for the house.
Deborah:
His parents constantly call me their daughter-in-law. They tell all their friends we are getting married.
My boyfriend and I plan to stay with each other, neither of us know if we want to get married (at all, not just to each other), but we are going to see how things work out down the road.
As for the bank loan, our bank and their bank have offered us the same interest rate, but they still think we should go with their bank.